She was sobbing, holding her head in both hands as she laid it all out. It was too much for her to handle. Her marriage was in trouble, she had a son who needed help, and she suffered from depression and anxiety. She had been fighting for the right cause, but she reached her limit.
Accept and accept the inevitable suffering of life – but be worthy.
Bill, I’m completely collapsing. I’m not going to take it any more. I looked her straight in the eye and said calmly, “Yes, you can.” We moved on.
The following is a brief introduction to the topic:
God knows what else. Tired, dysfunctional relationships. Family members and friends who are in crisis. 24/7 disturbing news. On top of all that, there are symptoms. Why do we find ourselves believing? (as opposed to perception), we are on the brink of collapse. What we do with the whirlwind will determine its outcome. We created it.
I’m aware that we are all different, and that beaker size is not uniform. Rarely (1%) did I work with someone who I thought didn’t have the internal resources necessary to overcome hell.
Yes, I do have a background in clinical psychology. But I am a veteran of mood and anxiety disorders. Over the past few decades, I’ve come close to what I thought was collapse several times. I’ve experienced the terror and hopelessness that comes with anxiety, panic attacks, agoraphobia and other mental disorders.
It never happened. No matter how many times I declared “I cannot” andthought my goose was already cooked. In reality, I was too invested in my misery for me to give up. How could I continue to torture myself if I died (or improved)? Then it was time for survival.
11 “Yes you can’s”
This is not something I learned from a book or a conference. I would never do this to you. I’m speaking from the heart and based on my life experiences. If you are on the verge of total collapse, you may think , and you might say “I can’t”. Then read the following.
- Open up a little space in your head for perspective.
- List the things that are happening.
- You may be surprised at how your past has led you to behave in a negative way.
- Accept that suffering is a part of life and accept it. Pain may be different for everyone, but we are all called to endure it.
- Start by changing your thinking patterns. You can start with #3, and then move onto the fact that you have more mental and emotional reserves than you think.
- Remember times when you’ve been in the same situation and made it through. While you’re there, consider the fact that you are in the same place.
- List the evidence that proves you are a survivor.
- Take a new approach. You can prove that you are unable to emerge.
- Consider the lessons you can learn from your current situation. You should be grateful for the chance to grow and change.
- Be defiant. Do you want to be beaten by your circumstances?
- When you’re doing business, your inner voice should be repeating “Yes, I can.”
What do you think about this? You’re sure to come up with more.
“Yes you can”
I understand the despair of and believing that emotional and mental collapse is imminent. I feel your pain, and am with you 100%. In the middle of a seemingly 10,000,000 “I can’t handle it anymore”s, I blindly chose keep bouncing.
Here I am now, many years later. It’s because of this that I can confidently say – “Yes, you can.” Are you interested in reading more articles on Chipur mood and anxiety? Scroll down to see the titles.