“Am I Undermining Myself?” 15 Indicators to Watch For

Self-sabotage is implied by family members, friends, therapists and even ourselves. Is it true? These 15 signs will tell you if it’s true.

 

You can minimize or maximize events and situations to conform with your immediate reality.

How often do we hear this perplexing, irritating statement? The one that annoyed you the most last year and the year before.

 

Believe me, I get it.

You may want to take action if you are wondering whether self-sabotage has destroyed your life.

Dig in…

What does self-sabotage mean?

A definition is the best way to start. Self-sabotage…

Self-sabotage is the deliberate action or inaction which hinders goals and progress. When someone sabotage their own success, they are committing self-sabotage.

“Intentional” is something that can be done consciously or unconsciously. It’s important to remember that every action or inaction that is self-sabotaging has a selfsabotaging thinking behind it.

It has to begin somewhere.

What are the top three self-sabotaging behaviors? Self-medication, perfectionism, and procrastination are all examples of self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage is a problem that can be very serious. It can lead to problems such as addictions to food, alcohol, drugs and gambling.

Destructive behavior can drain us of all inspiration, motivation and drive.

Why do people self-sabotage themselves?

You are familiar with the emotional and mental disorders that cause them. There are rarely any “certainties.”

Self-sabotage is believed to be caused by a number of factors, including a difficult upbringing, relationship problems, low self-esteem and the need for a coping strategy.

Consider it an alert if any of these apply to you.

15 Signs to Look for When You Ask “Am I Self-Sabotaging?”

Let’s get started. Here are 15 things to watch out for if you think you may be self-sabotaging.

Don’t forget the three top examples that we discussed earlier: procrastination (delaying), perfectionism and self-medication.

See what fits…

1. You can see patterns in your life where you have struggled to deal with the same symptoms or issues that you face today.
2. It is difficult to pinpoint the exact cause of your illness.
3. You’re not living up to your values and goals.
4. You often use words/concepts like “always,” every,” “never,” there’s no other alternative,” “should,” and “must.”
5. Negatives are always given more attention than positives.
6. When you progress, it makes you feel uncomfortable.
7. It is common to jump to conclusions or react in a knee-jerk way.
8. You can predict the outcome of a situation long before it occurs.
9. You think you understand what other people are thinking and what they intend. It’s not good.
10. You can minimize or maximize events and situations to conform with your immediate reality.
11. You can always imagine the worst-case scenario and then focus on it.
12. You may have a personal rule that says, “I feel it so it must be true.”
13. You use rigid and absolute labels to describe events or behaviors instead of using rational explanations.
14. You take responsibility for events, situations and people that you cannot control.
15. You think you are not worthy of success and good things.

What struck you? Remember, these are just signs. They may place you in a self-sabotage area. It’s your decision whether you should be there.